So, we went to see the new therapist - the woman who works in conjunction with the RAD specialist. This was our couples therapy, so we could learn to deal with our issues. Because our issues are what keep us from helping DD's issues. We are dysregulated when we respond to her with anger, frustration, disappointment, or sadness. We are projecting our issues and our fears when we respond to her. We cannot help her until we heal our issues.
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OK - I'll play along. Let's dig into MY "shit," because it is so obvious that WE are the problem here. Fine. I'm willing to learn new techniques--obviously what we are currently doing is not working. And why not? It has to be much more satisfying for a therapist to work with a functioning adult than try to work with an emotionally disturbed child--much easier to measure "success" if they can reprogram us and not really work on her. I understand the logic.
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So we spend the hour and a half telling DD's story and telling our story for the umpteenth time. At the end of the session she asks if this timeslot works well for us because she has a lot of people screaming for this later timeslot. We said sure - we appreciate the 4:00 appointment. Her schedule was packed and we were pretty lucky to get this time. So then she asked for a check. Absolutely. I naively ask how much--thinking it would be a co-pay of $20 or maybe $40 for a specialist. Nope. I was wrong. $187.50. OK - Will it be $187.50 every Monday? Why yes - yes it will be. No insurance coverage? She does not file insurance and is not on our plan. Medicaid? No - not without the child in the room. Well...
Congratulations! You just cleared your Monday afternoon schedule. We will not spend $1000 a month on therapy. His co-pay for seeing DD is $40 a week, plus her $187.50 to see us?! No ma'am. My poor DH will face the battle today when he takes DD in for her therapy with the specialist. 1) Because the therapist insists the mother be there and unfortunately I won't be there, and 2) because he will learn that we are not going to do the couples therapy. Should be fun!
I guess we are just bad parents who will not cooperate. Oh well, we still get to see the new psychiatrist that no one has any faith in. Maybe he can just sedate her so we can get parent points there for drugging her, because that is the responsible thing to do.
Sorry - I am in a very sarcastic, cynical mood.
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6 comments:
Oh man, I am SO sorry. This is so unfair to EVERYONE. *sigh* You have every reason to be cynical. I hope things don't go too badly for G today. :(
On a cynical note, the drugs keep looking better every day. What I hear is that there is nothing to be done with your daughter. You get to spend $200 a week to learn how to cope? Forget it, you guys weren't broke to begin with.
Why is exactly that YOU and dh are the problem again? What I see are two people who wanted to share their loving home with a child and the State is crapping all over you for taking this very broken child off their hands. I also see some greedy, self serving "professionals" who enjoy working the system and have clue what reality is.
Can I come to Texas and start kicking some A$$? Please???
I have one word. F*CKER.
and hugs. I always have hugs.
I have no words. This just gets better and better for you doens't it (sarcasm intended. lol)
It is CLEAR that you the parents are to blame because your son turned out so horribly too. Sheesh. All I can give is hugs. lots of hugs.
Here's a question for you: How the hell do you keep your sanity? I would have slashed my wrist months ago.
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